How Long Should You Wait Before Having Séx In A New Relationship? (See Here)

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How Long Should You Wait Before Having Séx In A New Relationship? (See Here)

Sometimes, the difference between a successful relationship and a failed on is timing.

It is not simply about the time you meet your partner, the timing of other activities such as getting married, making love, having kids and so on will matter a lot.

The decision for when to have sex is usually dependent on each person. There are people who have sex on the first date, after a few weeks, months and some even wait until marriage.

The main problem with this question is that there is no one answer or one formula. People who sleep together on the first date can go on to have a successful relationship and those who wait until marriage could end up unhappy. Just as with everything else, nothing is for certain.

The main thing you have to ask yourself is, do you want to have sex and are you emotionally/practically prepared? If your answer to both is yes, then have at it.

Listen to these people’s experience on the matter.

Tina: “I have sex as soon as possible. Sex is important to me. I do not want to waste time waiting for years only to realise we are not sexually compatible.”

Cassper: “I am old-fashioned. I will wait a while and also make sure she is not dating anyone else before we go all the way.”

Gbemi: “It depends. I never follow any specific rules. Sometimes, I have sex on the first date and other times, I can wait months. It has never affected my relationship one way or another.”

Favour: “I let the kissing determine. If we have gotten very comfortable with kissing and being together, then I know it’s time.”

What is your own view on the matter?