Ladies Listen! These Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Marry An Emotionally Complex Man

8 years ago

Ladies Listen! These Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Marry An Emotionally Complex Man

Of all the types of guys you might ever end up with in this world, you could do a lot worse than the emotionally complex one. It might be cool to hook up with a straight-shooting, ‘what-ya-see-is-what-ya-get’ kind of fella, but in the end, well… what you see is what you get, you know?

Most ladies want a man who has an emotional factory behind his eyes and heart. Because when grown men are busy churning out thoughts, ideas and questions about the very life they are living, and how they feel about that life, then you can be sure of a few good things.

Here’s what Huffingtonpost.com says the emotionally complex man:

If you ever meet a guy who can sit across from you at a dinner table or next to you in a bar and actually listen to you speak, don’t let him go. Emotionally complex guys have arrived at a place in their lives when they realise that the most important thing they can ever offer a potential partner is to just sit there and listen closely when someone very important is speaking to them. Answers, solutions, advice: those things are all well and good but in the end, most wise and sensitive fellas know that merely listening to the woman across from them is the coolest quality any man can ever possess. It’s also one of the rarest.

Some people still think that it’s better for men to have very little happening when it comes to feelings and emotions. It may seem unbelievable in the 21st century, but let’s face it: there are a lot of humans walking around on this planet who are the intellectual equal of a low bank of yellow snow. Men who feel things (and recognise that they feel things) instead of denying their own emotions are the kind of men who learn. And a learned man is a better man. Men who move through life and own the things they’ve done wrong, as well as the things they’ve gotten right, are men with substance. Emotionally complex men actually learn from the ups and downs that life brings their way. All the loving and losing and hurting and trying again with hope in their hearts (and not just in their pants) actually means something.

Emotional men aren’t lame; they’re guys who understand that the very art of living is a precious and never-ending trip through a very rough but worthwhile wilderness. And those kind of men, as complex as they may become after decades of living through and pondering life’s ups and downs, are the kind of men who you probably want to end up with.

Some guys go through life with a wishy-washy philosophy. They don’t get too worked up over matters of the heart. They just go with the flow. And that might be perfect in some relationships. Emotionally complex men have strong attitudes and opinions about everything from politics and music and food to how important love and s3 x and respect and parenthood are to any good relationship. Emotionally complex dudes don’t sit around biting their tongues or twiddling their thumbs. They speak up and get involved. And best of all? They spend a lot of time actually thinking about the things that matter in their lives and especially in their relationships. Because as soon as you stop thinking about your love affair and how you can work on it and make it better and sustain it with new breath and hot blood across years and decades, that’s when you’ll sit there on your couch and watch it die right before your eyes. Emotionally complex men realise that the more they think and feel about the person they share their life with, the better they communicate with that person.

Sure, being an emotionally complex man has it’s downsides. There are times when great thinkers and feelers tend to think or feel too much; it’s only natural. So it’s no surprise when certain guys run into walls at times because they’re confused by some cavalcade of musings swirling in their head or heart.

However, the upsides to loving a thinking, caring man far outweigh the small pains that usually waltz in the door alongside him. Men who allow their brains and conscience and hearts to lead them are men who learn patience. Because they have to. Because they make a lot of mistakes when they’re young, jumping into things with fearlessness and insatiable desire. They understand no child will ever be perfect. They know full well to expect that the youth of their children will hold amazing parallels to the youth they once lived through themselves.