If Your Guy Does These 5 Things, He's An Emotional PSYCHOPATH

9 years ago

If Your Guy Does These 5 Things, He's An Emotional PSYCHOPATH

[1.] They make you believe everything is your fault. Emotional psychopaths aren't always outright mean; most of the time they're very charming and compassionate. One minute you're fighting, the next he's sweetly telling you,

“Baby, look. I don't want to fight with you. I know you couldn't help ruining our evening and that it's hard for you to stop being so emotional all the time.” See what he did there? Instead of focusing on the actual problem at hand, he made you feel as though the fight was somehow your fault. That's because emotional psychopaths have no accountability and nothing is ever their fault.

[2.] They gaslight you. Gaslighting is when an abuser changes, twists, and makes up information with the intention of causing someone to doubt their own memory, perception and sanity. It's also a popular tactic of of emotional psychpaths. I'll never forget when I found out my husband was cheating on me because he accidentally left his email inbox open. When I confronted him, instead of apologizing he exploded and began yelling at ME. “You misread them, I can't believe you don't trust me, this is just like you to not trust me, I can't believe I put up with this, you're ruining our marriage,” and so on and so forth. After several days of unrelenting insistence he wasn't cheating, I actually found myself questioning whether I’d made this all up in my head. When an emotional psychopath knows they have no excuse, they make one up (all the while making you feel like you're the delusional one.)

[3.] Everything's your fault. This point looks similar to #1 but trust me when I say it’s different. In this case, we’re talking about an emotional psychopath’s tendency to blame others for all of their life problems. He’s doing poorly at work? Well, that’s your fault because you stress him out at home. In trouble with the law? Well, you made him so angry he got all heated up and caused a problem. Unhappy in your marriage? It’s obviously because you’re such a horrible partner. In short: Everything bad that ever happens is because of you, you, you, and never them. They’re perfect; you’re defective, end of story.

[4.] They tear you down. Emotional psychopaths know they don’t have much going for them so they exert control over their victims in an effort to control the way they think. (Because if you could think for yourself, you might realize how much better you deserve.) If they can pound into your head just how ugly/useless/pathetic/stupid you are, you’ll start to believe it yourself and cling more tightly to him because you (incorrectly) think it’s the best you can do. And once you believe your self-worth is non-existent, emotional psycopaths can make you believe anything they want. And what they allow you to believe only serves one person: them.

[5.] They isolate you. He’ll discourage and prevent you from seeing your friends because GASP, they might actually have two wits about them and convince you to leave him. If he’s putting in good effort to “fix” you, he can’t tolerate your friends ruining his hard work, not with their “bad” advice and misguided ways. He’ll also convince you they don’t really “understand” how much he loves you and will try to convince you that you don’t need friends because you have him.